I've been married a long time. My wife, Teresa, and I managed to raise two kids into adulthood. Now we find ourselves on the verge of becoming empty-nesters, and one of our possible choices is getting rid of the nest.
Hi. I'm Matthias. I'm a middle-aged guy, and I have a daily affirmation. There. Glad that's out. I also keep a journal, but I'll save that for another post.
I hate the news. Well, I don't hate news, but I've stopped tracking news because I hate the way they are. Don't get me wrong, I want to be informed, but that's not what has been happening. There is a lot of talk about the liberal media or the right-leaning media. News does not lean. At all. So I ignored the news and the most important things always found a way to me regardless.
I'm just tired of the news.
I'm also tired of always surprising my wife with all the things I have not heard about.
I used to love running. As a teenager, I would go for runs routinely. I wasn't part of a team and didn't compete. Running gave me a joy. It offered a strong sense of pushing myself. Generally that meant for speed rather than distance. I would run for an hour or so through the woods near home and try to improve my time for a given route.
I wasn't religious about running. Sometimes I'd take off extended periods and frequently I wouldn't run at all during the winter months. I never really enjoyed the cold air burning in my lungs.
It just dawned on me that life's to-dos are very much like my inbox. That may sound a little odd, but stay with me on this.
I used to hate to-do list. It did not matter if it was on paper, software, or in my Inbox. Admittedly the Inbox was by far the worst choice, but I have a long standing troublesome relationship with email, which I believe I finally overcame with Mailbox.
I've had an email account for a long time. I remember when every email was exciting. That was a mighty long time ago. At one point I wrote about the dread of email as I discovered Inbox Zero and managed to reach a new found un-dread of email.
For the most part I've been happily chugging along. While I have not always been at Inbox Zero, it's been a much better feeling.
I've been thinking about "work". The word itself has a lot of meaning. For some there is importance, fulfillment, challenge. For others it carries less positive attributes such as obligation, tedium, dread.
I myself am fairly ambivalent and depending on the day I can have positve or negative feelings associated with work.
Overall I don't spend much time thinking about work.
I spend a lot of time communicating. Since I work from home most of the time, much of my communication takes place electronically. Working from outside the office greatly reduces the number interruptions. However, it also makes it impossible for people to see if you are very busy before interrupting you.
I have found that it helps a lot to share how you approach communications. For me it comes down to mostly three methods:
In my line of work, and I'm sure many others, there are often conflicting interests between day to day things that need to happen and bigger, more interesting things that are important. Sometimes it feels like the difference between unclogging the toilet and building a swimming pool ... yeah, the pool would sure be nice, but nobody wants to see the toilet overflow.
In the end it comes down to conflicting priorities and over the past short while I've been contemplating the difference and relationship between tasks and projects.